Get over it

Saturday morning my phone alerted me of a calendar event and the event scheduled was "get over it" At first I thought what in the world? Get over it? Get over what? As soon as I had those thoughts I remembered what I was supposed to get over and laughed.

A while back I read Love & Sequins by Gala Darling and a piece of advice she gives on ending of relationships is to simply get over it. It sounds simple yet harsh but it is what we truly all need to do in order to move forward. To summerize the chapter of the book, she advised that we should allow ourselves a grieving time when a relationship ends. Normally we know we need to get over it but we wallow in our own self pity then scold ourselves for doing so. When you allow yourself to grieve, the grieving process is quicker. In her book, she advised setting a date for yourself to 'get over it'. The date doesn't matter or the length of time, just allow yourself what you feel you need.

At the end of a relationship I did just that. I chose a date and typed in my calendar "get over it" then set a reminder. When I did this I was uncertain if I allowed myself enough time. It felt like I would have a broken heart until the end of time. I grieved the relationship for a while but life changes, situations change and until the reminder popped up on Saturday I had completely forgotten about the "get over it" date. This is exactly how it should work. By the time the date rolls around you should be over it, and it should just be a part of your history, a part that made you a stronger person.

I've only tried this once and it was successful so it will be something I continue to do. I bet I could use this in other areas of my life as well. Anytime there is a major disappointment in life I think I will just set a "get over it" date.

I think we could all be a little kinder to ourselves and allow ourselves to have this time. I usually talk about thinking positive but negative emotions are apart of our lives. When we are confronted with negative feelings we should allow ourselves to work through it and allow ourselves enough time to simply "get over it"

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
Helen Keller