Every person will experience heartbreaks and regrets for poor decisions in their life time. Unfortunately there is no way around this. What separates us as individuals is how we deal with it.
We have all met people who have been hurt before so they built walls around themselves to protect their hearts. They refuse to trust, to love or let anyone in. Some people even go as far as to extend this "shut out" to making new friends. They live a lonely life and even though they have consciously chosen to not trust or love or let anyone in, deep down inside it is what they truly desire: love, affection and acceptance.
The people that have chosen this path are easy to spot. They are the ones with the tough exterior, the harden stare, the body language that says "don't talk to me". They are also the same people with the biggest hearts. They are very kind, sensitive and giving. They remind me of a piece of velveeta cheese that was left on the counter overnight, hard on the outside but still soft and mushy on the inside.
If you are this type of person, think about this for a minute: the past heartbreak or mistake has control over you at this moment and it is controlling your future happiness. You will never find inner peace and happiness when you let the past control you.
Instead of focussing on the feeling of regret or the pain of the heartbreak focus on how it felt to be excited about life. The excitement of falling in love or the excitement of making changes in your life. It's ok that it didn't work out, now you need to take the lessons you learned from that experience and let it make you a better person instead of a jaded person.
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