Along the path of life we all have those days....the days we will never forget, the days that teach us our life lessons.....
Today was that day, not for me, but for someone else. Today I was sitting in my car in a parking lot talking to a friend when all of sudden screaming and crying could be heard from the parked car next to mine. I couldn't help but over hear this girl begging and pleading a man to acknowledge her, to tell her that he loved her and that he did want to be with her.
I was shocked at first, then I chuckled because I remember being that same young 20 something girl, begging a man to just love me. I turned back to my friend and we gave that eye brow raised look to one another, you know the one, where no words are needed and we continued our conversation.
A few minutes later we felt a small bump on the car and heard the unmistaken sound of metal rubbing together. A friend looked at me and said, "she just hit your car" I calmly got out of the car and asked the girl, "did you just hit my car?" She looked at me pleadingly through tear soaked eyes. I assessed the damage and it was only a minor scrape. Then she started begging me to not call the police, she admitted she did not have insurance. She offered to pay for the damage but I took one look at her car, her dirty, greasy boyfriend and the girl, although pretty, she also looked like she had not seen a shower in days. I knew if I called the police the girl would probably not show up to court and I would never see the $200 in damage she just caused.
I had a choice to make... I admired the girls sincerity and honesty. Had she yelled at me or tried to scam me, the police would already of been on their way. I knew if I took money from her it would be her last dollar....
I decided for today her life lesson would not be "driving without insurance" (I don't think I am the one to choose people's life lesson but this choice was mine to make). She had a more important lesson to learn I life that day. In fact she had several....
Never ever ever beg someone to love you. Never ever beg someone to stay. Either a person loves you or they don't but most importantly you MUST always love yourself enough to never settle for sympathy love.
I learned those lessons many years ago. I only hope that she learns the lessons sometime in the near future and I think she will. I am sure she will be broken hearted but then again, isn't that the scratches and dings on the path of life?
I learned something that day also. You never know what someone else is going through. Everyone has a story.
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